Quite honestly I usually don’t read the Mobilehome Magazine and toss it to the pile of unread material/recycling. Your June issue recently caught my attention. The article written by a psychologist in Nevada, Gary Solomon. His writing this article has opened my eyes and I hope many others as well.
I am in a “senior” park where the managers are not the problem of psychological abuse and intimidation, but some individuals on the HOA board are a problem. The power game these people play by bullying, and verbal abuse to others in the park is ridiculous. Then they write notes to the manager that so and so isn’t following the By-Laws or the CCR’s.
I mean stupid things and just down right mean spirited people! A couple of them have been so involved in everything at this park that they have bamboozle the “old” folks by intimidation. It gets overwhelming where we aren’t able to use the club house kitchen for events unless we get permission from a committee of 3 people. The 3 people have the only keys to the kitchen cabinets to obtain kitchen supplies. The cabinets and drawers each individually have a lock where one must use a key to open. I recently had a birthday party for my mom who is 84, I am 62 and we live in the park together. Instead of the hassle of asking for use of the kitchen utensils/cabinet supplies and keys, I just arranged for a potluck and we all brought everything we needed to have the 84 year celebration.
Anyway, instead of making this a complaint writing of a frustrated, irritated MH owner I am responding to the article because it mentions that a copy is free by email of other articles written by Dr. Solomon. May I have copies or attachments of these articles?
I am not sure what can be done with these few people but they make big waves and it would be helpful if you or someone could offer some ideas. Thank you so much! (Name withheld).
Editor’s Note: In fact I hope you can see that Gary Solomon’s psychological abuse article applies to many different situations. Of course park managers are the first to come to mind; however HOA’s in parks also can be abusive as this letter demonstrates.
We always promote the formation of an HOA in your park; however we warn it’s leaders should be 100% for the residents, and without egos; otherwise a situation this reader describes can happen. We have written in the past about “toadies” who are pro park management.
Roommate Vs Guest
To whom it may concern:
I have been denied a roommate in my mobile home since according to park laws a roommate is considered a guest in the Rules and Regulations book.
As a guest, said roommate is not allowed to be left in the mobile, (should I go to visit my family) not allowed to walk the dog without me along, not allowed pool privileges without me along, not allowed to use the washing machines or attend dinners without me along etc ad finitum.
These rules will not allow 99% of us to have a roommate even though at this juncture unless we are disabled then a “caregiver” is allowed. Living with a roommate could help prevent us from becoming disabled by “having someone available” if and when.
Please let me know what steps to take to get this obsolete and detrimental park rule changed.
Allowing seniors to have a roommate has far reaching positive reasons that are only too obvious, however I elucidate below.
1-Safety for the senior in case of illness, ie: heart attack, stroke, fall, disease etc.(There is a documented case in 2014 when a senior who had a stroke was not seen for 5 days). I can get this to you immediately.
2-Helping to share the rent for seniors on a low fixed income. (section 8 considered)
3-Sharing the cost of food, housekeeping and cooking
4-Available for grocery, physicians, dentists if senior can no longer drive or is ill.
There are countless other reasons that I do not belabor in this missive. I’m sure you have thought of some yourself.
If you are fortunate, you too will become a senior and as a senior you will expect to be respected as a member of society and someone who can hold their head up and not have to panic come the end of the month only days away from your Social Security check.
A roommate situation would solve this immediately.
This law (or the interpretation thereof) disregards the needs of this population and turns a blind eye to the possibilities of what can happen and does if we are prevented a roommate.
Please let me know what I have to do to change this law. It is understood that the roommate must be suitable and be background and credit checked etc.
If all the criteria is appropriate and the roommate candidate is believed to be an excellent person to live with the senior (after meeting with the park manager) is as well over 55 (or whatever age is the park rule) the senior should be allowed to share their home to make their life easier and without a doubt immensely safer.
Please let me know what I as a senior would have to do to get these Rules and Regulations (as it stands now) changed for the benefit of all seniors in Napa CA.?
Barbra Hana Austin (81 yrs. of age), Calistoga